You can get anything you want.
The reality is want creates lack. Life is not about getting and accumulating stuff. It is about what you GIVE. What you put out, or give, is what you get back.
Giving to get something back isn’t it either. It is giving for the joy of it, without ego involved. Ego is always drowning in fear and lack. The soul is into giving. So the actual premise is, You can get anything you give. To be even more precise, you attract things not according to what you want, but according to who you are.
Reality Creation and Manifestation – Frederick Dodson
In our time it seems that people understand this premise at a superficial level. We give to charity, we tithe, we do things that make us feel better about ourselves. We rarely actually give from our heart and soul. Case in point, all the thoughts, and prayers thrown around for any number of tragic events happening in our world. It is great to send thoughts and prayers, people experiencing tragedy can use positive energy. They also need more and to be honest most of those thoughts and prayers are empty.
If you want people to be there for you, then you need to be there for them. Without expecting anything from it. Just do it because it feels good to you. No judgment, no fixing, nothing but just be there. If you want money, give money. No boasting, no posting about how much you gave, no expecting to direct where the money you gave is used, just give it. If you want love, give it. Give real love, not the kind that has expectations or caveats, just pure love. Love as only love, just as they are, or as it is. This isn’t the kind of love that fixes someone, it is just love.
I also feel obligated to throw in at this point, that if love is what you seek, start at home. Start with yourself. Learn to love yourself just as you are, no fixing or judging, just love who you are. If you can’t do that, then perhaps you need to work on what you don’t love until you can. I don’t mean lose a few pounds or get a facelift. I mean learn to love you just as you are. See your own beauty, your own unique contribution. Develop inner kindness for yourself. From that place, kindness and love for others comes more easily.
This love yourself as you are could be a rabbit hole, and I won’t let myself go there, this isn’t a self-help post in that way. I will say that allowing society to tell you what is beautiful is a merry go round that is difficult to get off of. Recognize it for what it is, the attempt to sell you something through guilt. Once you see it for what it is, it is easier to step off the ride.
Giving on a superficial level is easy, when you move to the level of your soul and heart it becomes much more difficult. It is easier if you find something that is meaningful to you and give there. Give of yourself, give of your time, give of your money, give your unique gifts to the world in what ever way is heartfelt to you. It will come back. The well of your kindness, love, and compassion will not run out, so give freely without expectation, caveats or desire for recognition. Give without ego.
The ego is what gets us in trouble. It is always lacking and living in fear. When you exist within ego you generate more lack and fear. Remove the ego and you can truly get anything you want. I think you might find that what you want changes as well, but we won’t get into that now. The place to start is to just give from your heart. Start with yourself if you need to, it will grow and expand in time to include others. With that giving, you will find that you receive much more than you give and it becomes easier. I tend to ask myself questions when I think about giving. I ask things like, why am I doing this? Do I expect anything in return? What part of me is the desire to give coming from? Is this my ego talking? Sit in true silence and listen to yourself. The answers to those questions are there, and they are honest if we really listen. Don’t lie to yourself. You know the truth. If the answers aren’t what you wish they were, well there is a good place to start some self-examination and work.
I will now put in a warning for people who have tendencies as I do. Giving of yourself until you have nothing left for you isn’t healthy. You must have boundaries. Establishing healthy boundaries isn’t anything to feel guilty about. It is a must for your own health and wellbeing.